The words you tell yourself about your life are so important...and you say so many things to yourself every day, it’s good to check in and hear your own narrative from time to time.
Instead of “I’m a mess”, try, “I’m good at figuring things out.” Instead of “I’m not making enough money,” think, “I’m doing better than before.” What stories are you saying to yourself about your body, your money, your relationships, your future?
Here's one way to know what stories you are telling yourself. Listen to how you describe your life to other people. If someone asks you a question like, "How are things going?" Listen to what you say! Are you telling people you're broke? Are you telling people you're unhappy? Are you listing complaints? Are you putting yourself down or talking negatively about your appearance, your job, your body, your friendships, your relationships? This is just the tip of the iceberg because what you say to other people means you're saying it to yourself a lot on a daily basis, too.
Try telling yourself the story of the life you want to live instead and see how this changes the way you feel...